There’s a lyric from a Hinder song that makes so much sense: “Cause the sex is so much better when you’re mad at me, You wear me out (We could end up making love instead of misery).” Just think about it for a second, angry sex is packed full of emotion and intensity and both parties hopefully will feel an incredible release of stress when it’s done. The thing is when you have been in a relationship for any significant length of time you’re going to have little fights or disagreements. You both end up getting mad and you reach a point where being right or wrong doesn’t matter but you’re still mad.
So what do you do? Sit brooding until you eventually calm down? Or you could just use the emotions the anger and frustration to have clothes ripping, lip mashing, hair pulling sex. Some people will say why not talk it all out surely that’s better and yes, if it concerns major issues then you really should. But those petty squabbles that shouldn’t really make you mad but do can be so easily forgotten by getting physical.
The act of sex creates a connection, it releases hormones that make you feel good and it reminds you that your partner is more important than a petty annoyance. Obviously, both parties need to be on board with this. If you’re sitting their next to each other in silence, both mad, make a move and try a kiss, try two. If it’s going to happen it will happen, if not then angry sex is not for you as a couple. But most often the intensity of anger will quickly turn to lust and before long the fight is forgotten.